I’m Just a Girl: Embracing My Glow-Up and Soft Life

I’m just a girl !

When you realize you’re just a girl, finally living life for the first time—it’s a powerful moment. If you had asked me a decade ago who I was, I’d probably have said, “I’m a mom.” I had my first child at 19, so being a mother has been central to my identity for as long as I can remember. But now, I find myself on a new journey—a journey of self-discovery, growth, and adventure that’s just about me. I’m stepping into what I like to call my “princess treatment era,” where I’m learning to stand tall on my own, embracing new friendships, career shifts, solo travels, and yes, a soft life filled with self-care and style.

This is the time to explore life on my terms, love myself fully, and attract only the relationships and experiences that add joy to my life. I’ve been more than a mom, but now I’m finally allowing myself to live it.

Embracing Solo Adventures & The Thrill of Freedom

There’s a special kind of freedom that comes with taking on the world alone. After years of being someone’s “plus-one” or tag-along, it’s exhilarating to embrace solo adventures. Traveling alone has opened my eyes to a world of possibilities and given me the space to reflect, reset, and grow.

Next year, I’m planning to make solo trips a bigger part of my life. My goal is to work remotely so I can explore new places while still handling business. There’s something incredibly empowering about charting my own course, meeting new people, and learning to love my own company along the way. And let’s be honest—solo travel makes for some hilarious stories!

Finding My Style & Glowing Up

One of the most fun parts of this new chapter has been rediscovering my style. For so long, my look revolved around practicality, convenience, and making sure the kids were ready before I was. Now, it’s about me—what makes me feel confident, powerful, and alive.

I’m embracing a new beauty routine, experimenting with fashion that feels true to who I am today, and yes, maybe even indulging in a few new skincare products that I would’ve overlooked before. This glow-up isn’t just about how I look—it’s about the way I feel. It’s amazing what a little self-care and self-love can do for your confidence and happiness. My goal is to look in the mirror and see someone who feels powerful, radiant, and unapologetically me.

Career Changes & Going After the Bag

Switching career paths in your 40s? It’s definitely a bold move, but for me, it’s been one of the most empowering decisions I’ve made. I’m diving into new opportunities, exploring my passions, and building a career that aligns with my own dreams, not just what’s practical or expected.

Three years ago, I’ve moved to a new city and this year am switching gears in my career. It’s a fresh start that’s opened up a whole new world of possibilities. Learning to “get the bag” on my terms has been a journey. I’m building financial independence, discovering new skills, and feeling more in control of my life than ever. There’s something incredibly satisfying about knowing that every step forward is because of my hard work and determination. There’s no one to rely on but me, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Redefining Relationships & My Princess Era

In this phase of my life, I’m all about quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. I want people around me who support me, lift me up, and respect my growth. I’m no longer willing to settle for half-hearted connections or people who don’t bring positivity into my life.

And yes, I’m embracing what I call “princess treatment.” I believe I deserve kindness, consideration, and respect in every relationship, romantic or otherwise. Gone are the days of playing “tag-along” to anyone else’s dreams. I want a partner who’s equal, supportive, and uplifting—someone who complements my life, not completes it. My standards have changed, and I’m proud of that.

Living the Soft Life: Embracing Peace, Self-Care & Joy

I’ve spent so many years rushing around, juggling responsibilities, and putting myself last. Now, I’m slowing down and savoring each moment. I’m embracing a softer, more peaceful way of life—one that’s filled with self-care, little luxuries, and simple joys.

Whether it’s taking a long bath, enjoying a quiet walk, or treating myself to something I love, I’m learning to prioritize my own well-being. This soft life isn’t about being passive; it’s about choosing what feels right, surrounding myself with positivity, and letting go of stress. Life is too short to be anything but joyful, and I’m finally giving myself permission to live that way.

Cheers to This New Chapter

As I step into this new chapter, I feel more empowered and alive than ever. I’m finally giving myself the freedom to explore, to grow, and to love myself fiercely. This journey isn’t always easy, but it’s one that’s shaping me into the person I’ve always wanted to be. So here’s to solo adventures, glowing up, building a life I’m proud of, and living my princess era unapologetically. And if you’re reading this and thinking it might be time to start your own journey—trust me, it’s never too late to live for you.