It's You, Babe: When You Realize You're the Amazing One

Have you ever been in a relationship where you thought your ex was absolutely amazing? It's a familiar feeling when we're deeply involved with someone special. However, as time passes and we gain clarity, we might come to a remarkable realization—it was all about us. In this blog, I'm going to share my journey of realizing that the amazing qualities I once attributed to my ex were, in fact, a reflection of my own strengths.

The Power of Perception:

Our perception is like a storyteller, weaving narratives about our past relationships. At the time, I saw my ex through a lens that magnified his amazing qualities. It was a beautiful narrative, but it wasn't the whole story.

My Amazing Qualities, My Reality:

As I reflect on that relationship, I now recognize that the amazing qualities I saw in my ex were closely tied to my own strengths and attributes. When we're in love or infatuated, we often project our best qualities onto our partners.

The Mirror Effect:

I've come to understand the "mirror effect." When I thought my ex was amazing, it was because he reflected back the aspects of myself that I cherished the most. It's as if he held up a mirror to my own greatness.

Recognizing My Own Amazingness:

This realization has been empowering. It's a reminder that I possess incredible qualities and potential. The love and admiration I once directed toward him now shine back on me, boosting my self-esteem and self-worth.

Self-Reflection:

If you've ever thought your ex was amazing, take a moment to look within. What amazing qualities of yours did you see in them? How can this realization inspire personal growth and self-love? Journaling or sharing your thoughts with someone you trust can be enlightening.

A Therapist's Tip:

My therapist once gave me a valuable exercise to determine who's the real source of the fun and charm. She suggested writing down every instance where there was an intriguing or humorous moment during our time together. Then, analyze who started those conversations or cracked those jokes. I did just that, and you know what I found? Nearly every time, it was me.

The Impact on Personal Growth:

Understanding that my ex amazingness was, in part, a reflection of my own attributes has motivated me to continue growing and nurturing those qualities independently.

Conclusion:

I thought my ex was amazing, but now I realize it was all me. This revelation is a reminder that we each carry a treasure trove of incredible qualities within us. Embrace your own amazingness, and let it be the guiding light on your journey to self-discovery and personal growth.